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​The Quest to Be Better Each Day 

#SOL Growing up, Letting Go

7/28/2020

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Before Alex was born, we worked on transforming the empty room in our house into our baby boy's room. My sister-in-law helped us design our bear theme- she painted bear faces and paw prints in an alternating pattern around the middle of his room. At my baby shower, I was gifted a hand-painted bookshelf with bear decals on it. A chocolate brown chair that reclined was where I sat, reading to Alex before he was born, from the books we'd been given. I sat there and talked to him and planned and dreamed.

After he was born, the chocolate brown chair in the teddy bear room was a favorite place to hold him, cuddle him, sing to him, be together. I can close my eyes now, and picture his soft head cuddled into my neck. As he grew, and the crib got traded for a bed, the chair remained. It was my place to sit to read to him at night, to hold his hand, to talk through the events of the day. I would stay until his breathing was rhythmic and I knew he was asleep. 

As Alex nears ten years old, we knew his room needed to change. Teddy bear faces were not as appropriate now for our soccer-loving boy. The teddy bears and paw prints were painted over as we upgraded his room. The chocolate brown chair was removed. The place I sat for years, before Alex was born and through his babyhood, toddler years till now..... gone. More than even the bear faces and paw prints, I miss that chair. 

In the space where it sat, we will get Alex a desk. He is growing up.  Keeping the bears and the chair would not change that time is moving on, each day older, each day more independent. 

Now, when I read to him at night, I perch on his bed. I don't linger anymore- he used to want me to sit in his chair for a while after reading to him. He liked the company. But no chair, so now I go and he adjusts to going to sleep all on his own. And I kiss him goodnight, turn off his light, and walk out the door. 

Isn't being a parent learning how to do this, over and over again? Learning how to let go when you want to hold on? Dreaming them into existence, then watching as they create their own way, dreaming their own separate dreams? 
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Erika Victor
7/28/2020 06:12:50 am

Does it help if I tell you I love the new look (him and the room)? What about if I tell you it is still hard when my babies 27 and 29? You have captured the struggle with time moving on so perfectly!

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Stacey link
7/28/2020 07:41:20 am

That’s definitely a big kid room that Alex has now!

I know how hard it is to let go of the baby things. Moving made it a bit easier for us to transition Ari to a big boy bed with less of that nursery look. However, I still have the glider in his room. I don’t sit on it anymore, but I can’t seem to part with it in there.

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Franmcveigh
7/28/2020 02:05:13 pm

Gorgeous!
My son had a lot, no several choices, at the age of seven when he got a new room. But that was it. Still working on transitioning that room now that he is almost 3-... lol

I need an inspiration board and a partner in crime!

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Fran Haley link
7/29/2020 06:20:04 am

Oh, Kathleen - those photos! They are gorgeous. Your Alex is so handsome. I must show the soccer bedding to my granddaughter (my son, former soccer coach, is teaching her how to play). Speaking of my son ... your words about Alex's teddy bear bedroom so evoked my son's nursery and the last time I walked through it, as we prepared to move. He was three. I touched the happy little hearts and teddy bears on the wallpaper of his room and wept. Letting go IS so,so hard. Time goes so fast (non-pandemic time, that is!), But the future glimmers so brightly - I sense all of this in your beautiful post. It's laced with such love and joy.

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